on sex n love, kinky!
haha, e following will be totally NOT what e title suggest... sorri to disappoint, ple....;p
my thoughts r on this when i read an aquaintance's blog on e topic of abstinence from intimacy before marriage. e definition of intimacy can be dat grey- does e act of abstinence include kissing, hugging n other forms/displays of affection? if so, how many, including christians could have done dat?
i believe strongly in having sex only after marriage, for both faith n rational reasons. n GOD is rational, so much so dat we mortals can't understand n take a great portion of HIS teachings to e dogs n label it as 'outdated'. There is no need to test drive sexual compatability before marriage, both will reach a mutual understanding, n not to mention all e years both will have together to practise n perfect;p Anyway, u choose a person u love best to be with, not have e best sex with, rite?
Having physical intimacy too early in a relationship clouds ur judgement, because unhealthy attachment forms n ladies, in rare cases, guys (though i dun think so, lol)may find it hard to end e relationship even though its well overdue.
N for guys, in cases where pre-marital sex leads to pregnancy or abortion, not only e ladies suffer physically n emotionally, guys may also be tied down to an unhealthy relationship, feeling obligated to not leave e gal...quoting from my aquaintance's blog: "to not leave now for a next 50 years of fights n unhappiness?" but yet, can u leave now?
To further add on, i believe in the dignity n self control GOD gave man, even though we face temptation to sin. All animals feel e need to mate n procreate. But r we, as such no different from beasts that we can't control our lust n like dogs, scamper n pounce as if in heat? In e 1st place, dun even expose urself to e possiblity of temptation. In face of temptation, RUN... figuratively, n even literally if u must. Dun test GOD, urself against temptation. u will NOT make it.
However, e definition of intimacy still bugs me, even though earlier i progressed to say alot on premarital sex. Kissing n hugging as displays of affection, r they included in e definition? Frens who read my blog may wan to enlighten me...:)
should end here, this entry is getting too long...opps..:)
1 Comments:
Hi Dorling... I juz saw ur friendster and saw ur blog lo... :@) Well, I agree with you that nowadays, people are too immersed in relationship that they act rashly. However, I have come across some situations whereby couples do want to spend the best times they have in their relationship.
In a relationship, anything can happen. Nobody can predict what can happen tomorrow. And for me, I feel that one should really trust their partner in most, not all la, of the things they do together.
And it's better to be happy and do things together. In this way, they will understand each other better lo...
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